Writing a sex scene that doesn’t come off as just plain smut is hard.
Like porn without a storyline.
The penis went into the vagina, and it felt good.
I remember the first sex scene I wrote. My friend, it feels word writing that word when referring to him, but life is complicated and that’s a different story for a different time, my friend at that time told me it gave him a boner when he read it.
So for me I felt satisfied in that it was interesting and felt real but at the same time was sexy.
I think sex scenes in a movie are hot. I think porn is boring. Because there’s no back story. There nothing to make me interested and turned on.
Because for me everything is mental. Arouse my mind and the rest will follow.
I’ve written more sex scenes in the years to follow the first one. Some funny, some sad, some just plain hot, but all in all trying to keep it feeling real.
I want my fiction to feel like truth.
So why am I rambling on about writing sex?
Because I’ve been struggling with my writing for the past year. I feel like I’ve lost my voice and so I’ve been forcing myself to write.
I’ve written a sex scene and I felt like I needed to preface why it might just really suck.
So there.
Almost done with it. Will post soon.
Who knows, I might also dig up the first one and post that too.
Happy writing. 💋
The Secret Life of Pandas 
You’re right… It’s a tricky balance to get it right.
I’d love to read yours. I can imagine the funny ones you’ve written and I bet they are hilarious, you are a funny chick!
For what it’s worth we are all vulnerable when we write. I think be brave and share them with us. You’ll be surprised how well they will be recieved.
Kat x
🙂 ok I bit the bullet and posted.
I missed it! Haven’t been on for a couple days but I’ll have a rummage…
🙂 you’re a sweetheart. 💋 yeah it’s definitely about balance. I will definitely share.
They’ve always told me that I should write about things I’m familiar with. That rules out sex scenes for me.
Hahaha. 😉
i look forward to reading! smut is how i got to xanga. true story. i haven’t written a racy thing in quite a long time.
I’d written some but not anything very hardcore
I’ve never known of a time that your writing sucked. You have to face that fact.
❤❤❤ thanks Jane.
I generally find erotica embarrassing to read, mostly because it tends to be sappy. I’m glad to see you writing again. Maybe now that I figured out how to use Firefox at work (it kept asking me for a login), I can post again.
I think you did quite a fine job!